A 7-year-old girl always used to complain that she’s not well and doesn’t want to attend school, her mom used to keep her home and after some time she used to get active and play with her little sister, laughing and enjoying. This gained the attention of her mother that how she can feel well all of a sudden.
He did his BS (Hon) in Psychology from Virtual University Lahore. After completing his education he worked as a Personality Grooming and Development Trainer in different institutes like Faiz-e Aam Public School, UFAQ Secondary School, Spectrum International (INTL), and other institutions and provided Training to Schools Students, Colleges Students, and Peoples from other disciplines of Professions to enhances their skills of exploring and refining their hidden talents, confidence building, positive thinking, developing positive habits and thinking, leadership, time management, mission-oriented thinking, communication skills, how to set a powerful mission and how to make it process, mental fitness, and physical discipline.
Editor: Sabtain Mustafa
Her mom started forcing her to attend school and whenever she forced her the girl started complaining of some pains or aches or that she’s sick. This all started to gain the attention of her mom and she thought if her daughter was lying or being honest, Despite the girl’s continuous complaints her mom took her to a doctor and found out that she’s not suffering from anything she just has many worries inside her.
Do people have awareness if their children might going through any of this and you can connect to this incident if you see your children complaining like this?
When we recognize a dangerous or unsafe situation, for example, a fire or a huge dog chasing us, our faculties, our thinking, and sensibility promptly inform our safety alert. It thus alerts different parts from claiming our mind on immediately get ready our body to battle or to run and leave the situation. Our autonomic sensory system discharges stress hormones under our circulation system to help us do this. Despite the fact that blood will be always streaming. Previously, in our body, when that fight-or-flight response occurs, the bloodstream progressions. For example, our stomachs need aid not required throughout a life-undermining circumstance. The bloodstream of the stomach is lessened altogether since different parts from claiming our particular figure require it additional. At this occurs, we feel that stomachache.
Children are ready for the fight and flight situation either fight or run, this happens when a child is suffering from difficult situations or is extremely worried about something. Getting chased by the dogs, or getting stuck in a fire is not always the main issue, being extremely worried can also be the main issue.
Children start imagining things when they fail to figure out things. Every human being wants their unhappiness, sad feelings, and depressive ideas to go away. The hard a child tries to figure things out the more he gets worried. Similarly, the more a person wants to let go of sad and depressive feelings the more it increases.
Children battles with their thinking and feelings instead they should be taught to manage and overcome it.
A few tips are:-
Welcome your children to observe the weather. Teach your children about how weather changes, how the cloud comes and then go, tell them to see how huge, small, or normal clouds are, how the sun comes in the day and leave at night when the moon comes. Let them know, Teach them if a sun gives light and the moon and stars shine at night, similarly if negative and unpleasant feelings come, welcome them, manage them and find a solution, it will go away eventually and positive feelings will come too that will make you good about your life, that will make you happy.
Help your children to look at the neighboring environment and surroundings, educate them by telling them that everyone in the world has worries, they just learn to cop them and find the best in it, and also tell them what is going on around them. This will help them to realize that they’re not alone, this will give them the strength to stop worrying about future problems and issues and the solutions to let go of it instead of telling them that don’t think about the past because it already happened, you can’t undo it, but you got the experience that’s what matters you won’t make the same mistakes again, everyone learn from mistakes also don’t think about the days and the time that is yet to come, you can handle it when the time comes because everything has its own time suggest them to relax, focus enjoy the present moment because time never comes back, we shouldn’t waste time thinking about negative points life is just too short, instead, live your life, get all the pleasure you can get, make as many memories as you can, and pay gratitude for everything you have and live the life you have.
Suggest your children about their breathtaking, tell them to take deep breaths and slow breaths not to let sad and unpleasant feelings go, but how to conquer them like how a ship survives during stormy weather. If a ship can survive in a storm, you can also get out of worries, worrying too much will only have an impact on your wonderful life and it also might affect your life, your health, disturb your routine, and won’t let you focus on the happy time you want to spend.
When feeling convenient tell them about your worries or problems. Share it with them that you’re facing difficulties and having a hard time, but it doesn’t matter, if worries come they also go away. This way they’ll know that everyone has worries at some point, even adults and grownups have worried too, but with the passage of time we all learn to manage, control, and handle it eventually. So, they can understand that don’t let worries take control of them, fight them and defeat them and that we are all stronger than we think we are.
When a child goes through a tough or hard time or facing some difficulties, tell them to notice the plus and positive things going around them, they can play games, they have friends and family, pets and so many other activities both indoor and outdoor.
Make a schedule or an agenda of your everyday life. When a child learns that everyone has difficulties, they come and they go, they should be calm and take long deep breaths before a meal, during their school homework and even before sleeping, they will feel relaxed and comfortable.