Anger is a natural response to loss. In a state of shock and denial, most people have a hard time owning and expressing their anger. For others, anger is their only place of safety. Sadness is another part of the Grief Recovery process. This is where many people become stuck. The pain of loss, underground anger, and sadness move towards depression. The depression is temporary and it resolves itself, but if you hang up at the depression point, you can’t enter the next stage of bargaining, where the person tries to find an explanation to make the situation different than it actually is.
The final step in the Grief Recovery process, the ultimate goal from the beginning, is forgiveness, resolution, or acceptance. At this stage of acceptance, one must be willing to tolerate all the pain and emotions associated with the previous stages. A person can move from anger to bargaining to denial all in a single day. The most important thing is to keep feeling the emotions and move through them towards acceptance. A person may become stuck for a period in one stage or another or go in and out of the five stages many times. If he remains stuck there, then that person needs guidance from a counselor.